Break the Entitlement Syndrome this Holiday Season

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Finding the perfect gift for youngsters at Christmas time used to be a mystery to me before I learned about all the cool stuff tweens and teens love from Hot Topics.  Teen aged girls and boys seem to enter a parallel dimension that’s so hard to penetrate, you can’t make sense of what’s going through their minds until it’s time to eat or spend money.  Then, they feel entitled to everything they see, but don’t always want to work for it.  I learned this sense of entitlement is not a bad thing, but a natural part of growing up and pulling away from their parents.  But before they can pull away completely, they need a good dose of reality.  They need to understand that the world will not jump through hoops to meet demands like the ones they routinely put on their parents.  Many find this out the hard way.  When you see signs that your child has a sense of entitlement, there are things you need to address right away.

An entitled child may not feel like the rules apply to them.  They feel they have their parents so trained to provide their every want, and wish, they feel like they’ll get things just by asking for them, and many times they are right.  Parents say they’re children will not express gratitude, empathy or even be civil in front of guests, but will want them to stop what they’re doing and take them to the mall to meet friends, or finish their chores for them.  They expect bribes or rewards for good behavior.  They will rarely lift a finger, and not even respond to a request until they’re done playing with video games or talking on the phone.  These are not good traits to have today.

The best gift is one they’ve earned.  Working to pay for something they want from a popular store like Hot Topics is a way to make them feel more responsible.  It helps move the needle in the direction of adulthood, which is only a few years away.  So ask them what they should do to earn a gift.  Tell them to seek money saving ways to buy it.  Tell them how you’ve used Groupons to save money and suggest they do the same.  Who knows, they just might thank you.

Late post: K’s reaction paper on SONA 2017 (school assignment)

President Rodrigo Duterte’s State of the Nation Address was for a lack of better words, informative. There were many topics (important ones at that) that were mentioned during his second SONA last Monday afternoon at the House of Representatives, Quezon City but I only picked five, and they are as follows:

One of the (if not the most) relevant topic for us students is the implementation of the K-!2 curriculum. This topic has been discussed countless times but the pros and cons still stand. The pros being that students now have the freedom to choose or think of what they want with more time, so it wouldn’t be abrupt, a smooth transition to college, if you will. Also in his speech, the widened reach of skills training and a significantly increased number of out-of-school youth who have availed the ALS (Alternative Learning System) was mentioned. As for the cons, (although for me this isn’t really that big of a deal, I can’t say the same for other people), adding 2 more years to the high school education means more tuition fee, but like I said, I don’t think this is that big of a deal seeing as there’s vouchers for incoming senior high school students, so that should help a little. This is an example of socialism.

Secondly, he mentioned the implementation or establishment of the official citizen’s complaint hotline (8888). I do think this is a good idea and it seems like this will actually be a good way for people to voice their complaints, grievances or concerns. What I do think negatively about this is that with all the people calling, it will be just that, people calling. I’d be surprised if they actually took the people’s concerns and address it, much less listen to it. This is an example of social democracy.

Third, Duterte said “We have also installed free WIFI internet in almost 400 public places around the country. We hope that the public will use them to access important information and services.” And that’s great. I can’t think of anything negative to say about that. This is an example of liberalism.

Fourth, the war on drugs. This has been the most controversial thing that has come from his presidency, for me at least. He said that the war on drugs “will be unrelenting”, and he’s right about that. The only positive thing I can think of this is at least they’re actually doing something about the drug problem of our country, although I’m not sure if “killing” people is the right way to go about stopping drugs, but like I said, at least they’re doing something. This is an example of fascism.

First and lastly (there’s more than 5 mentioned during the speech, but I don’t understand the rest enough to say anything about it), bringing back death penalty. I’m not really sure where I stand on this, but I think that is barbaric. Of course, in theory, it sounds like a great deterrent for crime but from what I’ve read, it doesn’t really do anything (aside from killing criminals) and there might be a slight percentage that those sentenced to death are actually innocent (not all the time, but it happens).