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Break the Entitlement Syndrome this Holiday Season

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Finding the perfect gift for youngsters at Christmas time used to be a mystery to me before I learned about all the cool stuff tweens and teens love from Hot Topics.  Teen aged girls and boys seem to enter a parallel dimension that’s so hard to penetrate, you can’t make sense of what’s going through their minds until it’s time to eat or spend money.  Then, they feel entitled to everything they see, but don’t always want to work for it.  I learned this sense of entitlement is not a bad thing, but a natural part of growing up and pulling away from their parents.  But before they can pull away completely, they need a good dose of reality.  They need to understand that the world will not jump through hoops to meet demands like the ones they routinely put on their parents.  Many find this out the hard way.  When you see signs that your child has a sense of entitlement, there are things you need to address right away.

An entitled child may not feel like the rules apply to them.  They feel they have their parents so trained to provide their every want, and wish, they feel like they’ll get things just by asking for them, and many times they are right.  Parents say they’re children will not express gratitude, empathy or even be civil in front of guests, but will want them to stop what they’re doing and take them to the mall to meet friends, or finish their chores for them.  They expect bribes or rewards for good behavior.  They will rarely lift a finger, and not even respond to a request until they’re done playing with video games or talking on the phone.  These are not good traits to have today.

The best gift is one they’ve earned.  Working to pay for something they want from a popular store like Hot Topics is a way to make them feel more responsible.  It helps move the needle in the direction of adulthood, which is only a few years away.  So ask them what they should do to earn a gift.  Tell them to seek money saving ways to buy it.  Tell them how you’ve used Groupons to save money and suggest they do the same.  Who knows, they just might thank you.

(Update) Children’s Book : “The Witch’s Cat”

This is the children’s book project that I shared from a previous post. I asked my daughter for permission to publish it here. This is just the cover.

This is a children’s storybook that I made for a school project. It tells the story of a young witch named Anya and her cat, Ymir.

You can read the full story by clicking the link below —

Attributes of a DEPED-registered pre-school

Parents whose child is about to enter pre-school for the first time should read this.

In a previous interview with Mr. Eleazardo Kasilag, president of the Federation of Association of Private School Administrators in the NCR, he said parents should be guided to choose the “right” school for their kid.

These are the following things to look for:

1. Must have the feature of a regular classroom (definitely not just a garage or a rented-room-turned classroom).

2. Must have complete visual kits, poster of Panatang Makabayan, crucifix and picture of the present President of the Republic.

3. Must have a library of books written by Filipino authors.

4. DEPED also requires a school to have an ample ground or field where pupils can play and hold Physical Education Classes and other related activities. The lot size must not be smaller than 350 square meters.

5. Permits (either marked with stamped pad or a dry seal) issued by the DEPED should be displayed on areas where it can easily be seen by parents and visitors.

6. The permit must have the corresponding government receipt that indicates the number and location of the school.

7. Children-per-classroom ratio should be one child for every 1.2 square meters. The UNESCO figure is 35 children per classroom.

8. Based on Republic Act 7636 or the Professionalization of Teachers, a qualified pre-school teacher must have passed the board examination for teachers.

Questions parents hesitate to ask

1. Parents should be able to know where the tuition paid every month or every school year would go. The same thing applies for tuition increases.

— The school administrator must be able to consult the matter first with parents before any ruling on tuition hike is implemented.

2. Refer to attributes. These are the basic things/observation some parents ask from school administrator.

Rationale for proliferation of illegal pre-schools

Failure of parents to ask or voice out their concern about the school their children are enrolling in is just like tolerating the illegal activities of the school.

Where to report bogus pre-schools

DEPED has the sole jurisdiction on the monitoring of basic education institutions, including pre-schools.

If parents doubted the school’s legality, they may call DEPED Division Office in their locality and look for DEPED coordinator for private schools.

Preschool kids

It’s always a big picnic everyday at school. But after children have graduated from pre-school, they must be able to read and write their names, distinguish colors, tell time and count from 1 to 100. An example of a learning center that provides kids the opportunity to develop their own skills is called the HighPointe Academy formerly Bullfrogs & Butterflies Childcare.

Towards the right direction (for pre-school administrators)

“It feels good to be always on the right direction. We can hardly do this if we are on the wrong path. How can we take up values if we are illegal,” Kasilag said of unregistered pre-schools.