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Observing All Saints’ Day in the Philippines

Family tradition

I grew up in the Catholic tradition of visiting the cemetery to honor the dead every Nov. 1. We would brave the crowd to bring flowers and candles for our departed loved ones. The occasion itself serves as a family reunion to us. Aunts, uncles, and cousins would come to the house to share a simple meal prepared by my mom and aunts. 

They would cook sumptuous ‘sinigang’ or ‘nilagang baboy’ for lunch. And before we head to the cemetery in the afternoon, the oldies would prepare ‘kakanin’ usually, ‘biko’ for our snack.

My late uncle. He raised my sister and me as his own.

No more burial grounds

It was sad that we no longer practice the tradition because there are no tombs to visit anymore. The area where once the cemetery stood for decades is now the haven of a big commercial establishment. Oddly enough, the commercial place in Alabang is said to be haunted by ghosts. 

My uncle failed to recover the remains of my grandparents. But, he was able to acquire an empty place for them at the next town cemetery.

(Update) Sadly, my dear uncle passed on last June. Another family member has joined his Creator.

Light a candle 

So for many years now, our family commemorates All Saints’ Day at home. I would light a candle beside the picture of my grandparents, aunt, uncles, and cousin and say a little prayer for them. 

For our family members no longer with us, these candles are for you.

I also lit some candles outside our door. Our oldies said the lights from the candle would guide the spirits leading them to the other side.

Ghost tales

Aside from hearing the stories about their late great-grandparents, my kids also loved to hear ghost stories when they were little. 

I think they got the fancy for horror and supernatural stories from me since I grew up watching horror flicks despite my being so afraid or frightened of creepy characters.

There are a lot of fond childhood memories to share about All Souls and All Saints’ Day but, a single post is not enough to accommodate all of them. How about you, how will you spend or celebrate All Saints’ Day this year?

Sacrifices for Loved Ones

It’s hard to recall personal “sacrifices” that I have made for my family because I don’t consider them sacrifices but part of my responsibility as a mother and wife. 

I can share with you were the occasions when I was assigned provincial assignments and did not see my kids for several days. Even when there was someone to watch over my kids, it’s different when you see them daily and monitor if they have eaten, took their vitamins, or completed their homework. I’m sure there are other moms out there who can relate to my experience. 

There was another instance when I was on assignment and got stalled in the area for days. A typhoon hit the province, and no available flights were going back to Manila. I wish I can voice out my complaint to my bosses for giving me the assignment then. But they can’t do anything about it as they too were following orders from the top.

I quit my job not because I don’t love the things that I do for more than a decade, but I thought there are more important things than earning money. I wish I’d stay, but there was a part of me that says I’d had enough. I’m still a working mom at present, but my home serves as my office for online opportunities. I’m happy that I’m no longer an absentee mom but a mom at their beck and call.

How about you what sacrifices you’ve made for your family lately?

Her story is worth sharing

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. It was sad and unfortunate that a relative of mine succumbed to cancer complications nearly four years ago. I thought of sharing a brief story about her ailment and journey…

My cousin, Cecil. She was full of life.

Our extended family will end the New Year with a heavy heart. My cousin died of cancer four days before Christmas day (December 21, 2015). She was 46. We were devastated with her demise but somewhat prepared for the eventuality that she will be gone any day since her doctor informed her parents of her terminal condition last month (November). She was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2010. She underwent mastectomy to remove the early stage of cancer from her breast. But two years later, her doctor declared that she has stage IV cancer. The cancer cells from her breast were not really abated but have spread to her brain.

Despite the pains and rigors of cancer treatment, my cousin Cecil remains positive all through her battle with cancer. Even up to her last remaining days, we know that she is holding on to her life. She loves her family so much that despite being sick she still think of their welfare. I remember her saying, “Kailangan maging malakas ang loob ko para sa pamilya.”

My cousin was laid to rest at Himlayang Pilipino on December 27.

Full story here: http://www.penname30.com/she-will-be-surely-missed/

Related story here: http://www.penname30.com/tales-of-two-women-with-cancer/